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Most women love having their breasts played with in sensual ways, but haven’t been willing to tell their partners what they desire.

In pornography, men often maul women’s breasts. Big mistake. Breasts and nipples are very sensitive. Be very gentle with them. Caress them lightly. Once aroused, some women enjoy somewhat firmer nipple caresses, perhaps even pinching. Check in with her about what she likes.

In general, breast sensitivity comes from the skin, not from the fat of the breast itself. So honking, kneading, and squeezing don’t typically feel as great as stroking and kissing.

Most people tend to squeeze the entire boob, or focus on just the nipple. That’s a shame, because the underboob and sideboob can both be exquisitely sensitive. The areas I’m talking about are where her breast meets her ribcage. As the names imply, the underboob is the lower part of the breast, and the side boob is the outer edge (the side near her armpit).

Nipples are Unique

Nipples are sort of like clitorises: some women can hardly stand direct contact, while other women need very firm pressure. As with the clitoris, it’s best to err on the side of being too gentle, then work your way up to more pressure. Start off by lightly stroking her nipple and circling the areola (the flat section around the pointy nipple). If your partner pushes her body towards you or makes a lot of noise, try gradually increasing pressure. Or just ask her, “Do you want more?”

If she wants more intensity, try gently pinching her nipples between your thumb and forefinger. Slowly increase the pressure, and ask her to tell you when it’s too much. Or you can try pulling on her nipples. Cup her breast in your hand, and pull on her nipple with your thumb and forefinger, pulling the breast further away from her ribcage. You can also gently twist her nipples, but be careful with this move, as it’s pretty intense.

Get Your Mouth Involved

Get your lips, tongue, and teeth involved as well as your hands. You can lick, suck, and nibble on her breasts. Try licking the curve from sideboob to underboob, or sucking or nibbling on her nipples. You can also get some temperature play involved, by licking her breast then lightly blowing onto the area.

If she likes a lot of pressure, try sucking and biting on her nipples. Again, start off gentle, and gradually increase the pressure until you find what she likes.

This area tends to respond best to delicate touch. Very gently trace a fingertip along this sensitive curve. Start at the outer edge and slowly work your way around to the middle of her chest. You can also do this with your tongue, or with light kisses.

If your partner likes it rough, graze the nipple with your teeth. Rougher still? Try nipple clamps.